Getting paid to care for a parent in New Hampshire
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Who can be the paid caregiver
Adult children, siblings, other relatives and friends can be hired under both CFI (self-directed through PDMS, or as an employee of a home care agency that runs a family-caregiver program) and the state-plan personal care route. The caregiver must be 18 or older, legally able to work in the US, and pass a background check, which the fiscal agent or the agency arranges and pays for. The trap to know about: for personal care specifically, NH rule He-E 801.24(c)(3) says the service is not covered when it is provided by the person's personal care services representative, by their agent under a power of attorney, or by their legal guardian. RSA 161-I says much the same. The caregiving adult child is very often also the POA, so this catches a lot of families. But it is not a dead end, and you have two options - do not just sign your POA away. You can move the power of attorney to another family member before enrolling. Or you can ask DHHS to authorize the arrangement under RSA 161-I:3-a, the provision that exists specifically to let the department approve a legally responsible relative, guardian, or POA holder as the paid provider when the care is medically necessary for specific health needs and no suitable provider is available. The approved CFI waiver separately states that relatives and legal guardians may be paid for waiver services whenever they are qualified. Ask before you assume you are disqualified. The one bar with no way around it: whoever is designated as your parent's PCS representative - the person who oversees and directs the care on their behalf - cannot also be the paid worker. Those must be two different people.
The spouse question
It depends on which route you take, and the answer is more open than most guides say. Under the CFI waiver, the version CMS approved effective July 1, 2026 says plainly that New Hampshire "makes payment to legally responsible persons" - and for an adult, that means the spouse - when the person is directing their own services under Participant Direction (PDMS) and has chosen that arrangement. The waiver also allows paying a spouse when the person needs extraordinary care beyond what a husband or wife would ordinarily provide, or when no other provider can be found because of where they live or other barriers. So a spouse can be paid under CFI, and self-directing through PDMS is the ordinary way in - not a rare medical exception. The catch is that New Hampshire's own rules have not caught up. Administrative rule He-E 801.12(a)(6) still lists any service "provided by a legally responsible relative" as non-covered, and RSA 161-I bars a legally responsible relative from being the paid attendant except as authorized under RSA 161-I:3-a. The rule and the approved waiver do not read the same way. What that means in practice: a spouse's pay is not automatic. Ask the CFI case manager, in writing, to authorize it under participant direction, and get the answer in hand before anyone starts working unpaid. If the case manager says no, that is worth appealing or raising with the Bureau of Adult and Aging Services, because the approved waiver is on your side. Note: this page answers "care for my parent," so the adult-child path is the relevant one, and that path is clearly allowed.
Waitlist reality
The state-plan personal care benefit is an entitlement - if your parent qualifies, there is no waitlist. CFI is different: it is a capped 1915(c) waiver. The version running July 1, 2026 through June 30, 2027 is approved for 5,951 people (the cap steps up each year of the waiver), and if it fills, a waitlist forms, generally in order of application date. Slot waitlists have historically been rare in New Hampshire. The harder problem is not getting a slot - it is getting the hours after you have one. A federal class action against NH DHHS is still live: filed January 11, 2021, certified as a class action November 28, 2023, the state's appeal rejected February 22, 2024, and allowed to proceed again by the federal court in April 2026. It alleges that people approved for CFI never receive some or all of the hours they were authorized, because there are not enough workers. Disability Rights Center-NH tracks it and takes calls at 603-228-0432. Hiring your own family member is one way around the worker shortage, but be realistic about how well-worn that path is. The approved waiver projects only about 280 people using participant direction this waiver year, out of 5,951 CFI participants - roughly one in twenty. You may end up explaining the option to your own case manager and pushing for it. Separately, budget up to about 3 months for the Medicaid financial eligibility decision itself.
Other doors in New Hampshire
| Program | What to know |
|---|---|
| Personal Care Attendant Services (PCAS) via GSIL | Medicaid State Plan entitlement, no waitlist. Consumer-directed: parent hires/trains/fires their own attendant, including an adult child. Requires the parent to be able to self-direct care and need 2+ hours/day of help with 2+ ADLs. GSIL 603-228-9680. |
| Veteran-Directed Care (VDC) | Available in NH through the Manchester VA Medical Center. Veteran gets a monthly budget and can hire any caregiver, including a spouse or adult child. Ask the Manchester VAMC social work/Caregiver Support team. |
| VA Program of Comprehensive Assistance for Family Caregivers (PCAFC) and Aid & Attendance | PCAFC pays a monthly stipend to caregivers of eligible veterans (spouses fine); Aid & Attendance adds up to roughly $2,800-$3,800/mo to a VA pension that can be spent on family care. Manchester VA Caregiver Support Coordinator. |
| Structured family caregiving (per-diem model) | NH has no formal per-diem structured-family-caregiving Medicaid benefit like Georgia or Indiana. The closest equivalent is CFI agency 'family caregiver programs' where a home care agency employs the relative hourly. |
| National Family Caregiver Support Program | Through ServiceLink/area agencies: respite, counseling, training for the caregiver — support services, not wages. |
Wartime veteran or surviving spouse in the family? VA Aid & Attendance stacks on top of state programs — see the national guide.
How to apply — step by step
- 1. Call ServiceLink, NH's Aging and Disability Resource Center, at 1-866-634-9412 (statewide, free). Ask for long-term care options counseling and a Choices for Independence (CFI) referral.
- 2. Apply for NH Medicaid financial eligibility online at NH EASY (nheasy.nh.gov) or with Form 800 at a DHHS district office. Questions: 1-844-ASK-DHHS (1-844-275-3447). Allow up to 3 months.
- 3. A nurse completes the medical/functional assessment to confirm your parent needs nursing-facility level of care (CFI) or at least 2 hours/day of personal care help (PCAS).
- 4. Once approved for CFI, choose how the family member gets paid: the Participant Directed and Managed Services option (parent is the employer, a financial management services agency runs payroll) or enroll with a home care agency that runs a family-caregiver program (e.g., Guardian Home Care 603-821-0929, Burd Home Health 603-836-0333) and hires you as staff.
- 5. For the PCAS route instead (parent 18+, can self-direct care), contact Granite State Independent Living at 603-228-9680 or 1-800-826-3700 and submit a Request for Services.
- 6. Complete background check and payroll paperwork with the fiscal agent or agency; paid hours start only after enrollment — care given before approval is not paid retroactively.
Where to start: ServiceLink Aging and Disability Resource Center — 1-866-634-9412, servicelink.nh.gov (statewide front door for CFI). For PCAS: Granite State Independent Living, 603-228-9680 / 1-800-826-3700, gsil.org
Do it yourself vs. get help
Free, accredited help first, always: your Area Agency on Aging (eldercare.acl.gov) walks families through these applications at no charge, and your county Veterans Service Officer files VA claims free. Where Resbit fits: if you're working a job and don't have hours for hold music, Resbit finds what your family qualifies for, fills out the paperwork down to the signature line, and does the chasing — flat $49/month, and the screener that starts it is free.
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Try the free screener Join the waitlist- RSA Chapter 161-I, Personal Care Services (NH General Court) — attendant eligibility and legally-responsible-relative exclusion — checked 2026-08-04
- ServiceLink NH (official state ADRC) — statewide number 1-866-634-9412 — checked 2026-08-04
- NH DHHS training document: GSIL Personal Care Attendant Services description (official state media server) — checked 2026-08-04
- American Council on Aging / MedicaidPlanningAssistance — NH Choices for Independence (CFI) Waiver — checked 2026-08-04
- American Council on Aging / MedicaidPlanningAssistance — NH PCAS Program — checked 2026-08-04
- Disability Rights Center - NH — CFI services class action status — checked 2026-08-04
- Burd Home Health — NH CFI family caregiver pay (up to $20/hr claim) — checked 2026-08-04
- Givers — Get Paid as a Family Caregiver in New Hampshire (rate corroboration) — checked 2026-08-04
- Veteran-Directed Care at Manchester VAMC (findhelp listing) — checked 2026-08-04